(Recently I received a letter from someone who found out about a couple who had a miscarriage. She asked me if I thought it was appropriate to send it to the mother of this baby, since she didn't know her very well. When I read it I found it was more than appropriate for these parents. I asked her for permission to share this with you who are reading this bulletin. Somehow, the faith and trust in which this letter was written, helps bring God's Truth and Life to light in the heart. Peace, Fr. Bline)
Sunday as you sat behind me in the pew and I heard you weep, I cried too. I could understand your mother’s tears. I offer my condolences to your husband and children too, but it’s your tears that inspired me to write.
No man could possibly understand what it is to carry a child within you. That gift is for women alone, that precious honor is for us, to become acquainted with the spirit dwelling within, long before anyone else.
Your baby knew you well. Your little girl knew so much about you: The cadences of your heart, when you were sleeping, resting, working. She was soothed by your breath sounds and the rocking of the rise and fall of your diaphragm. She heard your voice and could likely tell if you were anxious, angry, happy. She heard you speak lovingly to her father and siblings, and enjoyed all your body chemistries that resulted from her mother’s affections. She experienced you laughing, your joy. She knew you, and so does our Father in heaven.
He gave her to you, to love and cherish for her life here on earth. Her life changed you forever, physically, emotionally and spiritually in those few weeks. He chose you to mother her. Your DNA for His creation. He chose you. He chose you for her family, and even harder, He chose you to give her back. How he must love this child, that He would go to so much trouble, to give her a mother like yourself, and my, how He must love you also that He would choose you to give her back. He chose your heart; He chose your soul.
Below is one of my favorite quotes by St. Francis de Sales:
“The everlasting God has in His wisdom foreseen from eternity the Cross that He now presents to you as a gift from His inmost heart. He has blessed it with His holy name, anointed it with His grace, perfumed it with His consolation, taken one last glance at you and your courage and then sent it to you from heaven, a special greeting from God to you, an alms of the all-merciful love of God.”
You and your family have my prayers.